YO ppLE!

it seems that the f***-ed behaviour of FGS is gone.. i think i own it to da jun wen although i dun have any proof.. cause he maybe came to see me ventilating on my blog.. than told chun ann how i felt abt things in ZingO.. he is always the mediator..

last night(yes, we have been practising in the nights recently), we had a discussion abt bonds.. it seems that in ZIngO got two gangs.. last time got 4.. the 12 zodiac gang that i am in.. and the TP gal gang.. since the TP guys sort of Piang seh the gals le.. then now the gals dun have a sense of belonging in ZingO le..cause got a certain 'barrier' in between us and them(this is how the situation is being seen..)

here are my twenty dollars worth of thoughts.. before i start my analysis, i will have to separate ZingO in to 12 zodiac(12Z) ans the Salvo zingoians(TPZ).. it is not to discriminate anyone but to show the difference only.. no isolating pple of anything like that...

first thing, we, the 12 zodiacs, have been friends for like 4 and a half years le.. how are we supposed to stop being friends and start treating each other like strangers then bond with the other ZIngO members like how we are currently doing huh?

second, TP pple feels they do not belong in ZingO. why? cause they are used to being in their group as well as we are used to be in our own group.. then their group size shrinks and they become the minority.. this creates a reduction of their activity level so much that they feel like we dun spend time with them.. it is because they do not do things like they do with the pple whom ps them..

third, the 12 zodiac was once like the TP pple, being the minority.. that time, aw, choon, neo,qing xia,pei qing, jasmine and charmaine was around.. then when i joined ZingO, there were only teck we, chun ann, belson and me.. since this is abt 12Z and TPZ, i will not list the other pple like FuHua and YCK and XJW's friends.. continuing , then we were the minority.. but we stay on.. and we tried to get of our 12Z friends to come.. i asked tony and edvwin to join, then ruo han.. zi ming came on board as well.. lastly, dennis joined as chun ann called him to come.. if you dun wan to feel like you are in a group, either you join in the existing group, spend more time together, or you get more pple who you know into ZingO... like drag back aw, choon, qing xia and others.. it is up to how you wanna think and act...

i won't say that it is fully the minority fault.. 12Z has to be partially responsibility... we joke in our own language too much.. but this kind of things will change only if we need to adapt to a GROUP of pple.. group means ABOVE 5..wat we can do is that we invite you into our social circle but you must participate in order to feel that you are there.. and treat us not like younger kids who are childish..perspective is the issue..

both 12Z and TPZ have to acknowledge that if we dun do something, we are gg to drift more apart and eventually lose contact.. i dun want that to happen although i am always the one who the other party find faults in and starts complaining ... in short, i am the weakest link in the the social link...

we have to put aside fundamental things down if we really wanna bond.. TPZ must put aside skills if they want to feel belonging.. 12Z need to stop behaving so close to create space to accommodate the others.. it is not easy but both parties have to do it to bong together to form ZingO.. NOT 12Z only TPZ..

these bonding will not destroy our current as 12Z and TPZ.. only to bring a higher level, clique bonding.. to form a group.. this will have to practiced in the future where we've got other pple joining ZingO...












okok.. then getting back to my own life..

i change the song into a play list cause myrin is doing it and the blog trend is to post music.. lol..

sch is getting more like school.. cause i finally got the sleepy feeling in microeconomics classes.. then got a lot of assignments to rush.. haha.. but dunno if i am gg to cope with homework, personal life and practices... haha.. like secondary school sia...

then later 4pm got lessons.. after that, got drum practice at ACS(I) again.. my mum is complaining already... but for art fest, must do it.. no choice... perspective...

ONg Lai,
thanks for all those pple who cared and showed...